Crystal Children

One of the most delightful and enlightening qualities of children (especially the very young) is their awareness that life is magical and that all things are alive. They talk to their teddy bears, have conversations with trees, and have instant rapport with animals.

They are equally capable of communing with crystals, as demonstrated by the stories below.

"Just had to tell you about my granddaughter -- now 8 years old. She understands about crystals and is a collector. She has placed different ones around her home, i.e., a pink one by the front door so only love will enter.

"Every rock is a crystal to her. She will pick up a stone in the parking lot and it becomes special to her. She 'knows.' When the family does a candle ritual she brings out her stones to form a circle around the candle. She did this instinctively; no one (human) suggested for her to do so.

"She now says she needs some new crystals -- pink, purple, yellow -- because those particular crystals are "broken" -- they don't talk to her anymore -- especially the pink ones, which are actually cracked. (Donna)

"My two little brothers, one and five constantly run into my room and the first place they always go is to my altar where a lot of my crystals are kept; it is very odd how the five-year-old seems to know the meanings of all of them (with no human force ever talking to him about them) and has many of his own already, and the one-year-old also has a great collection, thanks to my mom and me. (Sarah)

I gave my little great niece (age 3) several of my polished stones as a gift. She loves rocks and has them stashed around her room. When I gave them to her, she giggled with glee and began to gently brush her face with them.

"Sara," I said. "Why do you like rocks so much?"

"Oh, Aunt Barb, I love them because they make my hands feel so good...and my self, too!"

Trust me, there was no prompting for that they say," out of the mouths of babes...." (Barbara)

Introducing Crystals to the Young People in Your Life

The children in your life may be yours, your grandchildren, little brothers and sisters, other relatives, or nonbiological kin. (One of the most special people in my life is my three-and-a-half-year-old friend, Aidan.)

What could be more natural than to share your own love for crystals with them?

Babies and Very Young Children

First, some safety notes.

Very young children should either not be left alone with crystals or should be past the putting-everything-in-their-mouths stage.

They should also understand that crystals should not be thrown, put into the tape slot of the VCR, the washer, dryer, or any other appliance.

This doesn't mean that you need to wait to introduce them to crystals. Large crystals which are placed out of crawling or climbing reach can help to create a harmonious atmosphere for a baby's room.

An amethyst cluster may help to have a calming effect; while a quartz cluster placed so that the sun's rays will reflect onto it can be a source of fascination. Rose quartz stabilizes and intensifies the energy of love.

The above safety notes also don't mean that a baby or very young child shouldn't be allowed to touch a crystal. I like to sit with children on the floor and put crystals of various textures and shapes out for their examination.

Overall, the presence of crystals in a very young child's life helps her/him to form a connection to the mineral kingdom which may always be a part of his/her life.

Introducing the Pre-School
And Early-School Aged Child
to Crystals

You may have heard the often-quoted story that young children, when faced with an array of various foods, intuitively chose a balanced diet for themselves. I feel that the same is true of crystals.

In my experience, the most important aspect to introducing children to children is to not over-influence them. Just as you should not be prevented by the books you read or the stories you hear from forming your own intuitive relationship with crystals so children need to find their own unique way of being with stones. Because children are always watching us and learning from our behavior it's especially important not to convey that there's a right or a wrong way to be with crystals.

I remember the time a mother and son visited my realtime store. The mother began to tell my about the child's various problems, and the boy kept on trying to tell her that he'd found the crystal he wanted.

She finally turned to him, and said, "Will you be quiet for a minute? I'm asking the lady what crystal would be best for your asthma."

I asked instead to see what crystal he'd chosen. He showed me a rhodochrosite, a stone, which because it is believed to help relax the muscles of the solar plexus is recommended for guess what. I told the mother that her son had done a fine job of choosing the crystal he needed.

Children do have that ability. This doesn't mean that you can't give them a gift of crystals which you think they would like. They will probably like just about any crystals you give them. It can be especially interesting, though, to select a number of inexpensive tumbled stones, and see which ones they pick.

I did this with a special four-year-old friend of mine. Aidan immediately reached for pyrite, and he has yet to become bored with it. He enjoys all his crystals, though, and loves to arrange them. He takes them to day care at least twice a week, and the other children are also learning to love crystals.

Children and Meditation

When you see that little speedball of energy, racing outside or talking nonstop to you, you may wonder if anything but sleep can still him or her, but children are capable of meditation„though it may not be exactly like your own forms.

As a four-year-old, my son was a natural meditator. I remember once becoming alarmed because it was so quiet in the back yard, and I went outside, dreading a scene of destruction. Instead, I found him sitting quietly beneath a tree. When I asked him what he was doing he said that he was looking at the sunset and thinking about it.

Children are helped by being introduced to the idea that peaceful silence is a good thing. I have found that the child who is just beginning to get sleepy often responds to the idea of sitting quietly and holding a crystal.

If a child is feeling frightened you can give them a rhodochrosite or amethyst to hold. Demonstrate how to breath deeply, and breathe with them. This can help them to experience the calming qualities of both crystals and focused breathing.

An older child may be ready for more focused meditation. The most effective introduction is by example. Let the special children in your life see you meditate. (If you describe what you're doing don't be too specific; say that you're having a quiet time.) If you place crystals either around or on you say that the crystals help you to be quiet.

The child will almost certainly want to meditate, too. Give them some crystals if they want them, without instructing them on how to use them. Tell them that this is a time for not talking (and make sure that this first introduction is very brief), and let them explore their own relationship with Spirit.

Programming Crystals with Children

Working with crystals in this way can be very empowering for a child. You must decide for yourself if you think a child is old enough to understand the basic concept of programming, i.e., "When you think a thought enough and feel and see what you want, all of this goes into the crystal and it helps you to make it happen."

Let them choose a crystal or crystals they'd like to program. When they've finished you may want to suggest that they put it in a place where no one will touch it.

The Older Child and Teenager

With these age groups I recommend an even more casual approach, especially if you are a parent. In my years of working with and selling crystals I have spoken to many teenagers who said that their mothers or fathers had crystals, too. It was clear these parents hadn't tried to force their children to share their interests because these young people thought that mothers and fathers were pretty special and enjoyed the bond which sharing an appreciation of stones created.

Just have your stones around and let your older child or teenager discover them for themselves. Don't suggest meditating or programming unless they ask about it, and if they do express enthusiasm be low-key. (You can, however, without much difficulty, encourage a teen-aged girl to wear a crystal pendant or necklace.)

If you aren't the parent of a special teenager in your life you will have an easier time. There is no danger of triggering off the love-hate relationship which so many teenagers have with their parents, and they don't need to declare their independence from you.

Some Helpful Stones

As important as it is for a child to have the freedom to choose stones which feel right there are particular stones which can be helpful for certain childhood conditions and crises.

Nightmares/Insomnia: One of my favorite crystal/child stories began when a customer bought an amethyst for her niece, who was troubled by nightmares. A few weeks later my customer came back to show me this note:

Ever since I put the purple stone you gave me beneath my pillow I stopped having the bad dreams.

Heartbreak: Children's hearts are tender and easily hurt. (This is at least twice as true for teenagers.) A rose quartz can help to ease the pain.

Self-esteem: As the child moves towards becoming an independent individual (s)he may find that citrine helps to bolster self-confidence.

Concentration: The child who has difficulty studying may be helped by either carnelian (for being grounded in the present) or sodalite (for clearing up mental confusion).

Emotional Overwhelm: Moonstone can be wonderful for this condition.

Patience: Rhodonite is the recommended stone for fostering this condition.

Communication: If your child has difficulty in asking others for help turquoise can be a useful stone. Blue lace agate is helpful for peaceful communication. Amazonite helps to promote the courage to speak the truth.

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