Developing Intuition: Part III:
Trusting Your Intuition/Trusting Yourself

The Difference Between Feelings and Emotions

When we discuss the matter of self-esteem, we move beyond feelings into emotions. Emotions are a blend of feelings and thoughts. Often these form into opinions of yourself or others.

You may have learned from parents or other significant adults that you shouldn't feel angry or envious or resentful. When you do, you judge yourself as not being good enough. You say, "I'm a bad person because I feel angry" or "Something must be wrong with me when I have so many good things in my life and I still feel depressed."

Emotions like envy, anger, resentment, and depression are intended to tell you, not that you're bad, but that you've gotten disconnected from your inner guidance. If someone got the promotion you wanted, you may feel envious. This tells you that you're blaming others for making you unhappy, which means allowing them to control of your life.

When you recognize envy as a form of guidance, you can decide to listen to what it's telling you. Guidance may say, "That job wasn't right for me. If I stay positive, am clear about what I want, and follow the direction of my intuition, the right job will come along."

However, if instead you tell yourself, "I'm wrong to feel envious," envy doesn't dissolve. It only gets suppressed by self-condemnation. You may also think, "No one likes an envious person." The more you judge yourself by the opinions of others, the further distant you get from inner guidance.

Intuition Interrupted

This has direct effects on how well your intuition guides you in making life choices. You're looking for a new career, and one day you "just happen" to see an article about massage therapy. You're immediately drawn to the idea of learning this healing art, but before you get a chance to explore, internalized voices shout at you.

"You're not very practical."
"Remember the time you wanted to become a horse trainer?"
"Be reasonable."

You end up thinking, "I guess I'm not very good at making decisions for myself. I'll ask some other people what I should do." In its classic form, the inability to make decisions for oneself is the Cerato condition in Bach Flower Remedy work. I have almost always found this state to be linked to low self-esteem.


In order to get full benefit from your intuitive powers, you need to trust yourself. Part of this trust involves recognizing that the path back home may not be the fast truck. It's important to accept that you may make mistakes at first. If you haven't been listening to your inner voice for a while, it may take practice to recognize it. You're moving in the right direction, though.

You can start by learning to accept your emotions. Allow yourself to be angry, envious, depressed. Look for the guidance in every emotion.

It's especially helpful to meditate with a crystal that's appropriate for your particular emotion. A partial list is below

Anger: Green calcite, chrysocolla, celestite, blue lace agate. Essence: Holly

Depression: Smoky quartz, amber. Essences: Gentian (depression with known cause), Mustard (depression with unknown cause)

Self-esteem issues: Citrine, unakite, peridot. Essence: Larch

Doubt in Decision-making: Cerato (see above), Scleranthus (torn between two opposite choices), Wild Oat: too many choices

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